Thank you for your friendship, your kindness, and the love that comes to me over this “invisible” thing called Facebook.
You may have noticed some change from me over the last year or so. Most of my FB friends are from other countries, so I’d like to explain the evolution of my life and work.
I have had a disease called Fibromyalgia for 30 years. I had a total remission from 2014 through October of 2018. Just guessing at why it re-appeared, a few months of intense stress — physical, mental, emotional, financial — may have contributed but I’m not sure. When it re-emerged, it surprised me and I had difficulty accepting it, thinking that I’d get “back to normal” in a few days. It never went away, and I had symptoms (intense and debilitating all over pain, migraines, exhaustion) for months. I finally accepted that it’s back, and started learning how to dance with it. There are days when I have to be in bed all day; there are times when the pain is so profound I cry in spite of medications that are supposed to help.
Then there are days, sometimes weeks, when it lifts, and though I’m in pain, I can function with joy. Recently I went through a period of having my blood tested for everything you can imagine, and the fear was that I was getting Rheumatoid Arthritis. I rejected the fear, and it turned out that I’m okay.
As the founder of the International Association of Infant Massage (IAIM), I’m still involved, basically posting blogs and articles about infant massage and babies in general. I’ll continue doing that. What I needed to accept is that I will never teach or train again. At first feeling grief, eventually I started to feel lighter, and stepped into my “eldership” feeling relief and peace.
Thinking about how to manage this pain disease, I looked back to when I first developed it. At that time, I was pursuing art professionally, and when I was making art, the pain calmed. I decided to try returning to that, and began exploring how I could sew again (my passion). I began hand sewing, doing embroidery, in April of this year. Now I’m making embroidered “landscapes” and have sold many of them. In July I opened a shop on Etsy (in May, I imagined I might do that sometime during the summer). You can see my work on my Facebook page “Vimala’s Textile Art,” on Instagram TextileArt_by_Vimala, and Etsy.
If you would like to support my work, you can go to etsy.com and find my shop “Beaux Textiles” (French for beautiful textile art). There you’ll see all available pieces, and you can “favorite” the shop, and “favorite” any pieces that appeal to you. This will help get my shop noticed. No purchase necessary. I love doing this more than I thought I would. It’s a mindful practice, and most days I’m sewing all day long. I even have some commissioned pieces to finish. When I told my son about it, he said of course it would be successful — “Mom, you’re an artist; you always have been an artist, and whatever you make has been successful.” He was happy that I was getting back to art. I’m also learning Spanish and French — because I have so many friends and family members that speak these languages, and also for my brain!
Another change that you may have noticed is my political posts. I have always been pretty loud about things I see as threatening the poor, endangered species, racism, and cruelty. Unfortunately, in my country right now, some of our leaders are doing just that every single day, and I saw this coming years ago. I won’t be silenced. I’m not an angry person, but I cannot sit by and watch my fellow beings suffering.
As you can see if you look at my page, and my other pages — The Tao of Motherhood (mostly posts about toddlers) and The Path of Parenting (mostly posts about older kids)— I’m still making my views about parenting known. The Tao of Motherhood page has more than 10,000 likes and counting. My personal page is mostly about babies, so maybe people whose babies grow relate to that page more.
In my heart, I am very much with Infant Massage, my life’s work and my legacy. I love hearing from instructors and parents, and I love to see what the chapters of IAIM around the world are doing.
If you have any questions, please message me; I’m happy to hear from anybody.